Rachael,
You need to be more informative with your postings - a list of actions and selections (I did this 1,2,3,4, etc).
I'm not going to try answering this one... I shouldn't need to ask you questions about your quest or posting... The information should be presented in a logical manner and should be understood by all members.
It's a bit like you telling one's children to "slow down, take a breath"
Dafydd