The basic issue is that you're trying to edit highly complex clips (10-bit, 5.4K, 120Mbps video bitrate) on hardware and software that wasn't designed to handle them.
Many modern PCs would struggle with these clips, and IMO you're lucky to even see content in PD13. With that said, I don't think there's anything that can be done to force it to create those shadow files - and there certainly isn't a way to force it to do it more quickly.
If you need to stay with your current setup, you might want to try using an intermediate codec like MagicYUV to free your system from all the video decoding.
The downside is that you'll need to convert each clip ahead of time (which is usually pretty quick) and you'll also need
tons of hard drive space to handle all the unencoded video. Spinning HDDs might not be able to keep up when previewing long stretches of the timeline but overall you should find projects
much easier to work with.
See this
discussion for more details.